In reading mom’s diaries from when I was a teenager, what strikes me the most is how busy we always were, especially my parents.
They never stopped. WE never stopped.
Going to school, yard work, church activities: youth group, evangelism, voters meeting, VBS, Special dinners, cleaning the church, remodeling our house, yard and gardening (both big), Dad always building something, Mom always sewing for her slipcover business. We played instruments, ballet, piano lessons, drivers training, school functions, making our own clothes and mittens/hats/scarves, camping trips, ice skating, tobogganing, swimming, puppies, ponies, kittens, rabbits, and lots of company on the weekends! Every weekend friends and family would visit. We would play, work, play, talk and play some more.
Always busy doing something!
Mom would never let us sleep in or lounge around. We were required to use out imagination and expend energy doing something positive at all times.
Two memories stand out as examples:
– I’m lying on the couch after school one day, watching a movie, when mom comes in and says “Get up. You’ve laid there long enough.” UGH!
– Trying to sleep in one Sunday morning after a late night out with friends, mom comes in and wakes me up to go to church. Thinking I would get a pass, I started to explain how late I came home last night and she stops me and says, “Well, that’s why you need to get up and go to church!”. UGH!
It’s not surprising then as an adult, I struggled with laziness. My favorite lazy things to do as an adult are sleeping in and curled up on the couch watching movies on TV.
As an introvert, chillin’ and sleeping is how I regenerate. An extrovert regenerates through socializing. Socializing absolutely drains me. If I don’t get my down time, I am impossible to live with. Thankfully, my husband learned this early on.
As a disciplined child, chillin’ all the time and over-sleeping was just not acceptable. Sinful, Slothful, Sluggard comes to mind. Proverbs is full of warnings on having these traits:
I passed by the field of a sluggard,
by the vineyard of a man lacking sense,
and behold, it was all overgrown with thorns;
the ground was covered with nettles,
and its stone wall was broken down.
Then I saw and considered it;
I looked and received instruction.
A little sleep, a little slumber,
a little folding of the hands to rest,
and poverty will come upon you like a robber,
and want like an armed man. Proverbs 24:30-34
Was my laziness a rebellion of my teen years, or a necessary requirement to function? It wasn’t until my 40’s that I realized chillin’ was something that my body needed.
I started to learn the difference between the two: chillin’ and being lazy.
God warns us that too much chillin’ creates laziness. But he also says that we should rest.
Six days you shall work, but on the seventh day, you shall rest. Exodus 34:21
I credit my upbringing for instilling in me the concept of too much. My principles and my body help me to balance it all out. Once I’m done chillin’ (regenerating), I have to get up and do something. My conscience just won’t allow me to be lazy.
Thank you conscience, I mean Mom, I mean God. UGH! I never had a chance.
Your friend in Christ,